I have tried to figure myself out but I simply can't and I believe I need help. I tend to snap very often at my husband over little stuff such as him not putting out the garbage on time for pick up or him forgetting to buy groceries that I asked for. I snap over things that usually can be discussed in normal tone. I just get angry too easily and get to a level that I shouldn't have. That upsets my husband of, course, and it just leads to an argument and tense feelings.
I blame part of this developed personality of mine on my parents who argued openly in front of me and my brother. It reminds me of my mom picking arguments over nothing. I've become like that. I need to stop. I don't want that for my kid, that is why I think I need to learn how to control myself and I just don't know how. I used to express myself like that with my parents, too, because it seemed ok when it was not. Since I witnessed disrespectful behavior from my parents I started being disrespectful to them, too, and arguing with them.
I feel like I am overly argumentative. Lately, I am finding myself slowly being overly angry at work too and sometimes exploding at people who don't follow my instructions thoroughly. I want to be able to restrain my anger and speak softly even when I don't agree with things. I have tried training my mind and thinking next time my husband doesn't do whatever he is supposed to that I should let it go and be fine with it, it's not the end of the world. But then the next moment I hear myself being irrational and raising my tone.
I am desperate for help as I don't want to raise my child with a raised voices around him.
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